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Her depression was evident, but much more than that, her helplessness was the root cause of her agony. “I am losing my control and I don’t know how to deal with a situation. Even though if I try a countless time, I wouldn’t be able to improve my lot” she said.
So what leads to the origin of unhappiness? Is it the acceptance of failure or the inability to try? They say unhappiness starts with the belief that a person holds against his/her ability to try further. For that matter, I am unhappy because I think my control over a situation is vanishing. The negative beliefs of helplessness, powerlessness, frustration and pessimism are destructive for the essence of happiness in life. So basically when a person faces a situation, he/she has two broad choices to deal with it. The first choice is to behave like a victim- as in feeling sad for self, being skeptical about the end results, embracing bitterness and wearing the gab of sadness. And the second choice is to understand ‘reactions’- that how are you going to deal with a situation. Stop victimizing yourself and embrace happiness by responding to a situation in the most positive way. Unravel the 7 simple things that you need to choose of accepting happiness in life.
- Try accepting a situation:
Now this is the first choice that you have in life. You can accept a situation the way it is (trusts the fact that it will definitely bring happiness in your way).
- If you cannot accept a situation, change the situation.
This is the second condition! If you cannot accept a situation or condition in your life, then the best thing is to change it. You are not happy with your career choices, do something else. You regretting coming to a party, look for ways to enjoy it. There will be number of options to control a situation and you just have to explore the results.
- If you cannot change a situation, leave the situation:
Last but not the least, if you can neither accept a situation nor change it then the best solution is to leave it. For instance, you are not enjoying a party and you choose to leave. You don’t want to be a part of a discussion, fine leave it. Now it is completely your choice to choose happiness the way you want!
- While facing a situation, respond rather than react:
Reactions could be negative and impulsive. Calm you soul by understanding the benefits of respond. While facing a situation, your response has to be subtle and controlled.
- Have acceptance and appreciation for self:
While you are putting yourself in the reign of control, you have to first have that sort of appreciation and acceptance for self.Pat your back for all the valid decision that you have taken in your life and pat your back again for all the wrong decisions too. These wrong decisions will help you with the best life decisions.
- Stand by your decisions:
Give conformity to your decisions and stand next to them! Nothing would bring more happiness in your life than the fact that you have appreciation for all the decisions that you have taken in your life.
- Embrace hardship in life as a part of life:
Just like success, failure and hardship is a part and parcel of life. Since we cannot reject hardship, it is better to accept/embrace it in life.
