Being taken for granted is not a happy thought- it is discouraging and de-motivating! But is it right to accept your fate this way? How good it is to underrate your self esteem and worth? Step up and speak! You are not a wall to bear the unnecessary burden of wall hangings- much like others; you are a human being in flesh and spirit!
The moment you start feeling confident about yourself, you start accepting the wisdom of life. There is a sense of rightdoing, encouragement and motivation all around. However, confidence suffers a setback under the influence of discouragement! How often are you taken for granted- be it from the person you love or friends? How right is it to be overtly submissive? No matter how dedicated or committed you might be in your relationships, being submissive (in the disguise of acceptance) is not tolerable. Never and never let anyone take you for granted. Here are the 10 things that you have to start doing from today to prove your state:
1.Learn to say a ‘No’:
Sometimes, saying yes to each and everything is a sign of weakness! Say no when you are not willing to do it, say no when you think it is going to demean your self-worth, and most importantly, say no when you are not feeling the right way around. Keeping it as simple as that!
2.It is okay to be a bit bitter, less sweeter and unpredictable at time:
Too much predictable behavior is also a curse- it gives other’s the right to take your for granted, since they know your behavior! So how are you going to deal with it? Okay, now you have to understand the value in being blunt, straightforward and stubborn. Maybe, they are not ‘too-positive’ as words but then you can also try that sort of change in your routine.
3.Start Confronting People- Deal with the Change:
You are not liking a situation- fine, you can step ahead to change your prospect! Confront people and situations that are simply not acceptable to your dignity. Now have that sort of attitude to stop bullying!
4.Be confident and less scared:
Confidence is the key to personal happiness! If you are confident about your own self, not even a single person will be able to harass your mind and soul. And once you start accepting change in your life, it will be much easier for you to be less scared and more confident.
5.Start rating the self worth:
There is only one simple thing that you have to understand- love yourself! No matter what you have and how less it is, it is still better than that of a person in need. Self actualization and contentment is the key to wisdom! It is the staple diet for your soul.
6.Be alone- not a loner:
It happens when you start enjoying your own company. After all, the gift of solitude is not a punishment but an investment in self. Never let your heart stay lonely because you are the best company that your heart can ever find.
7.Stop seeking for approvals:
Take your decisions, no matter how wrong and right they might be! Taking the onus of your victories and lifting the burden of failure is not always negative. It is more of the lessons of life that you learn and gain with experience. Be the reason for your failure or victory- no blame games, please!
8.Know your Dreams and Desires:
A mind in confusion is easy to target- it is believable, gullible, easily distracted and attracted! Start focusing on your desire and best is to know your dreams. You are the only one who is going to fulfill them!
9.Eliminate the word ‘expectation’ from your personal dictionary:
The less you expect, the happier you are as a person! Kill all those unnecessary expectations that you have from others. For that matter, even if they are taking you for granted, don’t let that affect you.
10.Have respect for only behaviors and not ‘age’:
A young child with a pleasant behavior should be respected than an old culprit! Respect is not a matter of age- it is rather a conclusion of behavior and habits. When you start respecting behaviors, you start guiding and motivating yourself. Try understanding the simple logic!